1:3 – Why the Negative Hits So Hard

Recent psychological studies confirm what’s long been suspected: Our brain reacts more strongly to threats, conflict, and problems—a phenomenon known as the negativity bias. This cognitive distortion means that a single harsh comment, a dismissive glance, or a tense meeting can outweigh several positive moments.

An article in The Washington Post (May 2025) describes this effect as a deeply embedded survival mechanism. Today, though, it often acts as a stress amplifier—especially in workplace settings.

What That Means for Us—Especially at Work

When our thinking gets stuck in "problem mode," our mental health suffers. Women in particular—who are often expected to balance performance, care, and emotional presence—are at greater risk of chronic overwhelm. The results?

Carola Kleinschmidt puts it like this:

“If all we see is what’s missing or not working, we lose access to our power. That blocks creativity, clarity, and real impact.”

How to Break Free from the Negativity Loop

The key is to actively counterbalance our brain’s drama bias. Research in Positive Psychology shows that even small daily practices can shift focus and build emotional strength.

1. Track the good

Take 2 minutes a day to ask:

What went well today?
What made me smile or feel grateful?
What turned out better than expected?
This technique—known as the “Three Good Things” exercise—has been shown to improve mood and strengthen self-worth without tipping into toxic positivity.

2. Bring positivity into your team culture

Start meetings by sharing wins or moments of gratitude
Encourage recognition among colleagues
Celebrate progress, not just outcomes

3. Direct your thoughts with intention

In high-stress moments, pause for a mental check-in: Is this really as bad as it feels?

Questions like “What’s the silver lining here?” can bring emotional balance without ignoring real challenges.

Why This Matters—Especially for Women

Many women are used to performing under pressure while also staying emotionally attuned. They tend to perceive interpersonal tension more intensely and are more self-critical. That increases the risk of a negative internal focus—and makes it harder to feel their own impact.
That’s why positive self-awareness isn’t a luxury. It’s a leadership tool. The more grounded and resilient we are, the more effectively we can lead—whether it's a team, a project, or a change process.

Conclusion: Drama Queen Meets Clear Mind

Both are always present: the challenges and the things that are working.
But only when we consciously focus on the good can we unlock the full force of our abilities.

As Carola Kleinschmidt says:

“Our brain exaggerates the drama. But we can push back—by deliberately noticing what’s going well. That’s how we strengthen ourselves—and each other.”

Try it today:

Take 3 minutes tonight and write down: What went well today?
Share this article with a colleague—maybe as a conversation starter at your next team meeting.
Ask yourself tomorrow: What’s already going really well for me?

Sources & Studies

Washington Post (Mai 2025): "How to overcome your brain’s negativity bias and cultivate positivity"
Psychology Today (April 2025): "The Power of Negativity"
SELF Magazine (Mai 2025): "How to Be More Positive Without Being Toxic"
Forbes (Oktober 2024): "Reprogramming the Negativity Bias for Joy"